Defective dating mindset;
Friday, November 16, 2007
In the world today,people have consistently created defective dating mindsets and they think its' perfectly the
norm...They feel that love and sex are interlinked and interchangable...
They feel that in order to show to each other that they are
"serious" about one another and
"deepen" their relationship,they need to deepen the physical actions and "
get to know one another deeper with intimacy"...
Now,that's a classic example of BULLSHIT...
Now enlighten me...
How in the heck can you know your mate better by humping and making each other scream/moan?!
Some form of language that can deepen your relationship and makes your relationship lasts?
And you innocently gave in because you think just by giving "
all of me",your mate will stay by you
and he will say "
oh baby,i will be here for you forever?
And the typical "
you love me you will do it" crap?
Oh come on,screw these...
Laugh about it but let me tell you there are people reading these and say
"hell yeah!I thought or even did all those before." and there are some who will say
"This is so true,it happened to me before.Gosh~"At times,its' so hard to remain level headed when the emotions and
"love" come surging in.
We promised never to give in to temptations,but when we
"fall in love",all these promises seems to vanish,we simply falter to the "power of love" and give in due to the pressure from your mate
(whom love you soo~ much or at least that what he claimed) and let him take control and what the next thing that hit you?
There goes your purity,like DUH and carry on living your life with more regrets
as if the vast amount of regrets you
already have is not enough...
A conversation i had with liyana;
Conversation started with rattles of blahblah...
Then...
Kai: That right,people nowadays are viewing love and sex as interchangable...Liyana: Ya...guys think about sex all the time...Kai:Ya,they always put sex as the priority of a relationship...Liyana:That's so true...it makes me so scared to be in a relationship...Rattles on...
ENDED.
You see the point?
We people can be so level headed when we are single,and feel so disgusted that guys can be so selfish and think about sex all the time,but most times when love come knocking,we will lose our senses and say
"oh gosh,i cannot control it,this is love and i just want to show him i love him..."We can't control love?Think about it...
I personally disagree with it though.
But,okay even IF we really cannot "
control love" as so claimed,we can always alter and control the way we EXPRESS our love...
To have these claims like
"if you love me you do it" and
"to show and progress in our relationship,we need to deepen our physical intimacy", its plain ABSURD...
Now,after reading till here,
Some readers will go like these...
"Why kai~?""
Isn't how love supposed to be?""Letting my mate touch me all over and hump me,this shows my love,deepen the relationship and make him fall more in fall with me more wad..."Okay see,that's what love novels and movies did to your brain...
"Go with your heart,not your brain" crap...
You seriously think he will love you more after you gave
"it" to him??
Like cereally???
Let me give you a punchline...
"What for buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?"Simply put,why would he stick with you if he can satisfy his needs without commiting to you dumbdumb??
People nowadays have subconsiously let intimacy and passionate lust take the driver's seat, put commitment in the back seat and let momentary needs and lust drive and direct their relationships and more crtically their lives...
Love is not measured by how far your physical relationship with your mate is...Love is not about getting,but giving...It is to lay down our desires and do what's in his or her best interests.To care for him or her even when there's nothing in it for us...True love looks beyond personal desires and the gratification of the moment...THIS is love...Intimacy should be the reward of commitment,
not the priority but reward...True love is expressed in
self control and patience...
It's more than the
superfical embraces and kisses...
Get it?
Close your eyes and reflect a little...
And ask yourself if you need to reevaluate your current relationship and mindset...
Till then...
Now shoo~
